Each relationship comes with it own unique challenges as two people learn to respond to the physical and emotional need of their partner. It can at times to be difficult to continue the momentum of a relationship when it seems one person has stopped contributing positively, or both persons are not communicating honestly with their partner. There are many ways that seeking out the services of a couples counselling professional may improve and enhance a relationship.
For a variety of reasons people at times withdraw from communicating with their partner. They may be holding on to hurt, anger or resentment. Changes in life such as job loss, death of someone close to them or transitioning into retirement can cause emotions that may be difficult to deal with, and may cause a breakdown in the communication. Working together towards opening up the lines of communication again, and being honest about thoughts and feeling towards a partner is at times only possible through the professional assistance of a non judgemental, qualified professional.
Adjustment of View, Recognition of Strengths in Partner
Problems, and blame are usually the focus in relationships when they are troubled. Meeting with a couples counselling professional will often shed light on the fact that both people in the relationship need to adjust their view towards seeing the strengths in their partner.
Seeing Potential for Change
Couples counsellors usually see that there is a need for change from both individuals. By accepting this and working in harmony with a therapists suggestions, change can be possible. In many cases, small changes can have big effects. What is most important is that each person be willing to listen and understand the reasons changes might be needed to improve the way the other partner is responding to them within the relationship.
Setting Goals for Improvement
A professional councillor will almost always give couples ‘homework’. Whether it is words or action based, making a partner feel better about being in the relationship is a step in the right direction. Putting into action the recommended suggestions will benefit both people in the relationship – as they learn that together they can redefine the relationship and repair ties that have been damaged.
Seeing a New Vision for the Relationship
What was thought to define the relationship needs to be made new. Having a new vision for the relationship means to begin to experience the partnership in a new way. The behavioural patterns that were formerly causing stress, anxiety and sadness need to be replaced by positive, trusting and loving emotions.
If you have considered hiring a couples counselling London therapist but are not sure if it will make a difference in your relationship, you may want to schedule a consultation to discuss the main concerns and issues you are having with a professional. They will be best able to determine if couples counselling is right for your situation and whether they will be able to direct you in ways that will improve your relationship.